A Woman's Heart

I want to start this by saying that God is so AWESOME!!!! I love Him so much, even as I’m typing I have tears in my eyes because I’m so glad he loves me enough to correct me and that He SPEAKS to me.  Moving on:

“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man has to seek him first to find her*.”

These are words to live by for every Christian woman. Dating in the past, was a bit of a challenge for me.  I would meet people, give them a chance and Jesus sweetly tells me “he’s not your husband.” I end things (usually in frustration) and would go on to proclaim that “i am impatiently waiting for my husband to find me.” 

With the over active imagination God has granted me with, everywhere I would go I thought “what if I meet my husband here? What if we sit next to each in a waiting room, or bump in to each other at a grocery store, or (my personal favorite) maybe he will stop by my church see me singing during praise and worship and God will tell him ‘there she is’ and we have the spectacular movie moment where our eyes meet and we just KNOW.” While to most these may seem like innocent thoughts and dreams, but in reality it was me trying to do God’s job. 

If my heart is hidden in Christ, then my thoughts and my actions should reflect that.  God spoke to me and gave me an analogy for my “hidden heart.”  He told me that my heart is like a game of hide and seek with a small child.  I hide my heart in Him, then as soon as I realize a man is starting to look for me (i.e. I am approached and asked on a date) I easily give my “hiding place” away.  I make my heart available, only to be disappointed to find that that man wasn’t supposed to find me.  Another one comes looking and if I think they are the one and see them going the wrong direction – just like a small child – I pop out and say here I am!!  I get so anxious about wanting to be with THE ONE, that I don’t give THE ONE the opportunity to find me.  The bible says in Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing.” Well if I’m giving away my hiding spot then no one is really finding me. 

When your heart is hidden in Christ, a man has NO choice but to seek God first to find you, because God is the only way to get you.  And when the wrong men start seeking after you, God will redirect them and let them know – she’s not the one for you and they wont ever find you!! We can’t be childish in our relationships and get impatient waiting for God’s match to find us. We have to be mature enough in Christ to stay hidden, consumed and so in love with Him that we don’t give away our hiding place. 

Another thing God placed on my heart was the consequences of being impatient.  Marriage is the union between two people, but a marriage creates a brand new blood line.  

God told Abraham and Sarah that they would have children; we know how the story goes.  Sarah gets impatient and tells Abraham to sleep with Hagar and Hagar gives birth to Ishmael.  Sarah later gives birth to Isaac.  Sarah and Abraham’s disobedience led to the birth of Ishmael, and thousands of years later there is still unrest between the two blood lines because Abraham and Sarah got antsy.

Your marriage doesn’t just effect you and your future husband or wife, it effects your future children.  Everyone who knows me knows I LOVE children, I adore them and I can’t wait to give birth to and/or adopt a whole team of children.  However, if I get impatient and give my heart away to the wrong man, I might give birth to some Ishmaels.  I only want Isaacs!!!

The final piece that the Lord (in all of His love and patience and glory) put on my heart is my willingness to wait.  If I am 40, still a virgin, still unmarried will I still be able to wholly serve him?  Will I feel complete enough as a single woman to still trust God that he will give me the family I’ve always wanted with the Husband of my dreams?  It is my deepest, earnest, most sincere prayer that it doesn’t take until then but yes.  I am complete in Christ with or without a man by my side. 

Ladies, and gentlemen too if you are reading this, You won’t be satisfied with a significant other if you aren’t satisfied with only having Jesus.  Until He is enough for you, no one will ever make you feel complete.  Husband and wives might let you down and if you don’t feel whole with Jesus (who will never let you down) how can you expect to feel complete with someone else?

So now, for the first time in my life when I say it’s just me and Jesus and I am content with that, I really mean it. He is my EVERYTHING, he is the greatest love I will ever know and FINALLY I can honestly say, that is enough for me.


Pasted below is a link to an AWESOME message by Pastor Brian Williams. He is Pastor of Hope City in Columbus, Ohio so if you are ever in the area stop by.  The message is on the topic of Christian dating and I encourage you to listen to it when you have time.  

http://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-marriage-in-light-eternity/id461149420?i=111912203&mt=2

*After some research, what I thought was originally a Maya Angelou quote I believe is actually a Max Lucado quote, still not 100% sure though.